Marriage and commitment
It is every humans need to love and be
loved… We find solace and security through marriage. But marriage and
commitment are synonymous. Married couples have to develop and improve their
relationships and stay committed. Hence it is essential that while we decide
married we are ready for commitment. The flurry of events and the elaborate
engross the couples and they have no time to realize the importance of
marriage. All the rich wedding ceremonies are practiced to settle the betrothed
couples in the lasting institution of marriage. However, if the couples have no
clear understanding on commitment these ceremonies are futile. Nowadays,
couples are settling down for the marriages of convenience especially while
they have careers, friendship and social tie-ups to focus on. While there are
plenty of couples to participate in marriage, there are very few to realize the
true importance of marriage and patiently involve in the commitment that
marriage requires or rather demands. Many couples even avoid marriage and seek
solace in live-in relationships. But they forget that it is the need to love
and be loved that prompts them to start a relationship. This need is truly
actualized only in marriage where in a lasting relationship, couples love each
other, bond together, live together and understand each other absolutely,
sharing their joy and sorrow and stay committed to each other. These couples
choose partners who they love and decide to spend their large share of lives
with. Instead of starting off short term relations, if the couples plan
commitment with partners who are willing to be married, they would have a
lasting relationship to treasure.
We all have virtues in us to be loved
and to love. Thus we can marry but when we are settled with other imposing
issues such as health, career, income, and other demands of contemporary
living, we need time to consider our priorities and settle in marriage after
managing our immediate issues or concerns. Moreover, marriage does not make
anyone tame instead it improves our maturity and provides us better perspective
to successful living.
Let us decide to be committed and make a
bold decision to get married but only after carefully choosing the right
partner.
Here are few steps that helps us to plan
our marriage:
- Consider the qualities, virtues and values that we require in our partners.
- Decide the career role that we prefer in our partners. This helps us to ensure that our partners are not too busy and have adequate time to spare for the relationship.
- Choose partners with interesting career roles and ample income.
- Forget all myths on marriage. Every marriage is different and we have to plan carefully to make it lasting and successful.
NB:
There is no quick fix to successful marriages
- Ignore the traditional dictates on marriage. They are not meant for you. Moreover, such dictates are not meant for the busy contemporary living where couples are struggling for time, space and resources and traditional dictates are the last thing that they want to cope with.
We have finally discussed marriage and now we can look forward to a
lasting relationship and happy living…
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